Today is the 25th anniversary of my ordination to the priesthood. It seems like in the course of that time, I should have learned something about my craft, and I’d like to think I have. So I spent some time reflecting on this, and here is some of what I came up with.
1. When I look back over the years, it’s not so much “my accomplishments” that I remember. It’s the people. I think if was going to give my newly ordained self some advice, I think I’d say, “Don’t worry so much about being a visionary, or being relevant, or finding strategies to grow your church. Just love the people God brings your way, and love them well.”
2. The more “in-step” with my calling I’ve been, the more “out-of-step” I’ve been with the culture around me. Maybe another way of saying that is that being hip isn’t worth it. Being true is.
3. Managing energy is so much more important than managing time. A pastor has to know what makes the fire in his belly blaze like the sun. If a pastor allows himself to become depleted, all the time in the world won’t help.
4. Whether through death or disagreement or a hundred other ways, people will always be leaving you. It will not always or even often be personal, but it will always feel personal. To the degree that a pastor is true to his calling and loves these people well, a piece of him will always leave with them. What will be left? Perhaps more than anything else, this can turn an inspired, enthusiastic new pastor into a sad, broken man. This is one with which I think every pastor must find a way to make peace, and to do so very early on. I cannot overstate how much is riding on this one.
5. As Job knew only too well, doing everything right doesn’t keep the bad stuff away. Call it what you will, but there is a capriciousness to life that can, and most likely will, cause a pastor who is honest to question everything. There had better be some good people who know a pastor well enough and love him deeply enough to help carry him through, because there is a very good chance that absent such folks, he won’t make it through on his own.
Perhaps this is the place to stop for now, and to say thanks to all those people who have helped me, and who continue to help me , not only make it through but to see God’s glory in it all. And seeing the glory of God is something I would wish for all of you as well, because even after 25 years, I have never known or experienced anything else like it.
Fr. Rob, your ministry has meant so much to our family. Thank you for encouraging all of us to be faithful examples of our Lord.
Posted by: Miriam Turner | December 01, 2011 at 04:56 PM
Congrats, Rob (and Linda), on this milestone. We are privileged to be your friends.
Posted by: Kris | December 01, 2011 at 06:44 PM
Nicely said.
Posted by: Sheri | December 01, 2011 at 06:50 PM
Teacher, you do all these things,
With a pleasant attitude;
You’re a teacher for all seasons,
And you have my gratitude!
Posted by: Buy UGG Boots | December 02, 2011 at 02:51 AM
Hard to believe that it's been 25 years! I loved reading your reflections on the ministry; they are relevant for student physical therapists, also. Here's to another 25 years!
Posted by: Alice Salzman | December 02, 2011 at 12:43 PM
We feel honored to have had you and Linda come into our lives. Congratulations on the first 25.
Dan & Cindy Davenport
Posted by: Dan Davenport | December 02, 2011 at 01:04 PM
Congratulations! We are thankful for all the positive energy you bring to the church. And we are so happy to have found Saint Matthews. You constantly inspire us. And so happy that you chose to be ordained!
Posted by: Taryn | December 02, 2011 at 03:36 PM
Thanks for these reflections. I was blessed by them. Number 2 & 3 especially spoke to me.
God Bless,
Dave
www.passionaustralia.org
Posted by: Dave Quinn | December 03, 2011 at 11:59 PM